You can join us if you want to

That's a verse from 'Seven day mile' by the frames. Its got the poignant feel of sensibility, that is viewed as the incarnate of remorselessness. In Nature - Human nature, it's inappropriate to have a concern that concerns someone else, that is, if I adore someone then its imperative not to allow the others to view that someone with adoration.
Giving that choice of joining us if needed, is like speaking to a horse.
Well that's what I think